Everything to practice BDSM

What is BDSM?

BDSM is a group of sexual and erotic practices and refers to Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism respectively.

If the origins of the term find their roots in the 90s, BDSM has always been part of our sexuality and makes it more intense. Its oldest vestiges date back to ancient Rome and Greece, and some S&M poems even date back to ancient China.

Bondage refers to the fact of tying up one's partner for erotic purposes, with the help of ropes, handcuffs, bondage tape, etc. Immobilization stimulates the imagination and exacerbates the sensations, both in the person tied up and in his or her master or mistress.

Domination and Submission propose to assign the two lovers a role of dominant or dominated. The submissive must obey the orders given, after which he or she may be rewarded or punished.

Sadism and Masochism refer to the search for pleasure through pain, inflicted or experienced. These terms were coined by psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing in the 1880s, referring to the writings of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch and the Marquis de Sade.

Many BDSM accessories have since been created to satisfy the most varied fantasies. Tying up, disguising, stimulating, spanking, hanging, everything is possible as long as you both want it!

What BDSM can bring you

BDSM must be practiced with certain rules in mind, the most important of which is mutual consent. Take the time to talk in depth about all the things you need to talk about. By opening up to your partner, putting your desires and fantasies into words, you will already be raising the temperature..

Expectations, desires, limits and fears are intimate elements, rarely shared. You will get to know each other better, and understand each other better.

BDSM and SM practices also have very positive effects on the mental health of its followers, who are on average less stressed and less prone to depression. Like in the theater, it is possible to slip into the skin of a character and leave your complexes in the checkroom. By encouraging letting go and trusting each other, SM strengthens the bonds between partners.

You will learn to communicate effectively, to differentiate a real "no" from a false one, and especially to accept the limits of the other.

This universe has been made accessible with the evolution of mentalities. The success of the "50 Shades of Grey" saga, for example, has had the merit of de-dramatizing certain practices, while presenting some of the now common BDSM accessories. The model of spreader bars used was even sold out in England after the release of the film!

BDSM accessories

There is a wide variety of BDSM accessories that allow you to explore as many sensations as possible. Some of them require training, even training by professionals, while others are perfectly accessible to curious beginners.

Determine what appeals to you: being at the mercy of your partner, losing control, or being in charge and setting the pace... Learn about the potential risks and invest in quality equipment to avoid injury.

Tying Up

Tying up is one of the most common fantasies. It's a chance to explore your limits, to lose control of your body and mind. This perfectly legitimate need can however be complicated to satisfy on a daily basis.

Good BDSM restraint accessories help to put your fears and complexes in the background by giving all your trust to your partner.

Handcuffs

The handcuffs are perhaps the most famous BDSM accessory. Diverted from their primary function, they become a source of fantasy for many. The BDSM handcuffs are used to limit the movements of the tied person: not being able to answer to caresses, his sensations are then multiplied by ten. Ideal for fetish games, soft SM sessions or for beginners, they are available in any BDSM store.

The chains

For those who wish to go further, the chains are a good compromise. Attached to the arms and legs, they restrict movement and are particularly well suited to a role-playing atmosphere.

They are used with carabiners and can be connected to a sM collarcollar, to an o-ring or handcuffs.

Ropes

Initiate yourself to the techniques of shibaria Japanese art used by samurai to restrain their prisoners with respect. Learn how to handle the ropes and transform your partner's body into a real work of erotic art, highlighting her buttocks, her breasts..

The shibari strengthens the mutual confidence within the couple, and can be used as a delicious foreplay.

The bondage tape

The bondage tape is at the same time soft, discrete, very easy to use and without danger. The PVC film attaches to the skin by adhering only to itself, which allows it to be removed without pain.

Although very flexible, the bondage tape is very resistant and can be used for all projects: tying, gags, clothes..

The collars

The sM collars collars traditionally include a ring to which it is possible to attach leashes or chains. It is a symbol of commitment to the master and a token of acceptance of the established rules, which can be worn during your SM games or in everyday life.

Spreader bars

The spreader bar is used to limit the submissive's movements. Pegs are attached to the metal bar, which can be adjusted to the desired position.

Constraint kits

The suspension kit allows you to tie up your partner, or even to suspend him for a total abandonment. Perfect for lovers of SM and fetish games, a constraint kit ensures maximum control for the dominant.

To stimulate yourself

Feathers

The feathers are a must for BDSM accessories. Adored by professionals as well as by less experienced people, they caress and awaken the senses. Discreet and elegant, the feather is the perfect tool to initiate to SM practices in a soft way.

The candles

The candlescandles, scented or not, contribute to the atmosphere you can create for your play sessions. The scents are endless: red fruits, passion, chocolate, vanilla, sparkling wine, flowers... Some BDSM stores offer candles with aphrodisiac or relaxing properties.

Spike wheels

Also known as the Wartenberg wheel after its inventor, the spike wheel is a medical instrument originally used to test reflexes and skin sensitivity. The SM community has reappropriated it to make it a BDSM accessory for stimulation.

Move the wheel over your partner's bound body: unable to anticipate your movements or respond to your gestures, his sensations will be increased tenfold.

Ideal for foreplay with SM tendency, the wheels with spikes are one of the leading sales in fetish stores.

The breast clamps

The breast clamps or nipple clamps are for both men and women.

There are several types of nipple clamps, generating more or less strong stimulation. For example, the opposite type of clamp or the notched metal clamps cause intense pain.

Masks

The hoods, masks and headbands propose to increase the sensations.

The body compensates for the deprivation of sight with hearing, smell and touch: each caress and blow thus gain in intensity, provoking a powerful sensory vertigo. The abandonment is then total for the submissive, who lets go in a terribly exciting way.

Gags

You wish to deprive your partner of the use of the word? Turn to the gags and their derivatives. The ball gag, for example, allows you to silence your submissive while provoking a hyper-salivation that is very exciting to watch.

Spanking yourself

You will find in SM store many accessories to spank your submissive.

The swifts, whips and whips are the most popular tools and feed many fantasies.

The paddleslook like leather spatulas and are used to spank your partner. Without being too painful, they allow you to learn about BDSM accessories by playing with your submissive's limits, just like the canes and badines in rattan.

To penetrate oneself

You will find in SM store a large choice of sextoys.

The dildos are more or less realistic imitations of the human penis, and are used for example to penetrate the vagina or the anus.

The belt dildos are intended for both men and women. It is a dildo worn with a harness to penetrate his partner.

The anal plug is intended to be introduced into the anus to dilate it. Some models are vibrating, remote-controlled, or decorated with an animal tail, a jewel..

To go further

Test the BDSM accessories of fetish games diverted from the medical world like the glovesgloves, the mouth spreadersthe anal speculum and vaginal speculum borrowed from gynecology offices..

Think of the vinyl sheets to protect your bedding from wet play.

Thrill seekers can try electro-stimulation and Electro Mystim products to play with low doses of electric current on different parts of the body.

Chastity belts and chastity cages are placed respectively around the pelvis and on the penis, to deprive their owner of any sexual intercourse or masturbation.

The pumps and suckers are quite unknown to the general public. However, penis pumps help to solve common erectile problems such as premature ejaculation.

Vagina pumps and clitoris pumps are used to increase the sensitivity of the vagina or clitoris to be more receptive to caresses and other stimulations. There are also breast pumps and nipple pumps to increase the size of the breasts and nipples, without surgery.

The ball stretcher is a sextoy that crushes the testicles and provides a very exciting pain. However, it takes several weeks of training to lengthen the testicles.

The cockringthe cockring, less painful, but just as effective, is placed at the base of the penis for intense and long-lasting erections.

Similar to a fishhook, the anal hook is inserted in the anus and can be decorated with balls or removable eggs.

Finally, the urethra plug offers completely new sensations by stimulating the orifice of the penis.